According to the American Cancer Society, patients who have good relationships with their doctors tend to be more satisfied with their care—and tend to have better results. [8]

Cancer treatment often means that you will have more than one doctor. You may even have a team of doctors, nurses, and other people involved in your care. Although you may get information from several people, it’s a good idea to choose one doctor to be the one you turn to with your questions. This doctor may or may not be the one you see most often. Be sure to select a doctor with whom you feel comfortable asking questions.

Here are some tips that will help you when you first go to meet your doctor or, if you already have one, to help you talk with him or her about your cancer and treatment options:

Bring someone with you

It may not seem necessary, but it is always helpful to have support, and another person to think of questions. You may want to hear a reassurance again, or share it with friends and family.

Write out a list of questions beforehand

It’s easy to become nervous or upset. A list will help you remember important questions. The American Cancer Society has provided some questions your healthcare team can usually answer for you [8]:

Write down the answers you receive

Writing down answers will help you remember your healthcare team’s responses and will help you understand them later as well as you did during the visit.

Make sure you understand what you are saying and hearing

When talking, use “I” statements. The phrase “I don’t understand...” is much more effective than “You’re being unclear about...” Do not be afraid to ask clarifying questions.

Ask your healthcare professional about virtual counseling

Find out whether your healthcare team will respond via e-mail to questions you or your family may have about your treatment. Ask about Internet-based counseling.

Be assertive!

Remember: You are your own best advocate. Don’t feel as though you’re taking up time or asking too many questions. This is your appointment and your personal time with your healthcare team. Always remember that you are the patient and you have a right to know everything, including information about other treatment options and their respective pros and cons.

For more information about ways to talk to your healthcare team and create a positive relationship, visit the American Cancer Society Web site at www.cancer.org or the National Cancer Institute Web site at www.cancer.gov.

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